I made a mistake early in my life, which I later regretted. Fortunately, my parents provided me with the opportunity to correct myself, and I became more religious, AlhamduliLah. When it was time for me to get married, I relied heavily on a scholar to assist me in finding a suitable partner. Through the lectures I attended, my understanding of the religion became clearer. On that faithful day, the Imam informed me that he had found a match for me, a brother, and I was excited.
We met in person, and our families were involved in the process. The nikah date was set, and I took on more than 80% of the expenses, as I was employed at the time. However, I did not realize that my husband did not have a stable job until after the nikah.
On the day of the wedding, my husband revealed that he did not have any accommodation arranged. I was shocked and rushed to inform my mother, who was equally shocked and disappointed. She was worried about the embarrassment of having to stay in my parents’ house. My husband eventually contacted one of his friends, and we begged him to assist us. We spent the night at his friend’s house, and I realized that I had made another mistake in my life. However, I felt that seeking separation would be a significant embarrassment.
After spending some days at his friend’s house, I suggested that we relocate to another state, which my husband agreed to. We started anew, and I took on a teaching role to manage. However, my husband became increasingly irresponsible, and I struggled to provide for our children alone.
I was afraid to discuss separation or divorce due to the shame it would bring to my parents. My husband eventually abandoned me and our children without warning. I suffered greatly, and my life was threatened by his misconduct. I became depressed and realized that I had to escape the situation.
When I saw evidence of his fetish practices, I knew I had to run for my life. I was frightened by what I saw, and I did not want to become a victim. I am currently struggling to provide for my children, and things are extremely difficult. My first son was unable to take his WAEC exams last year due to financial constraints.
I have vowed not to engage in any immoral activities, but I am finding it challenging to remarry. Those who are genuinely interested in marrying me often step back when they discover that I have children. Others seek to take advantage of me. I am seeking help to get back on my feet and provide a better life for my children. May Allah come to my aid.
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Servant Of Allah