When you notice early enough that your husband or wife has something against you, you should seek help immediately to resolve the issues. Be smart enough to take responsibility for how you feel while clearly identifying how your partner’s behavior influenced you. Your health is not the same as your spouse.
If you fail to address these issues, you are only postponing the separation days. It could be divorce or death. Most partners do not forget the bad words and actions made against them in the process. They will ask questions when the time comes.
Conflict is part of marriage, but it creates tension or stress between marital partners. You have to pay attention to the words and actions your partner puts up whenever you disagree in the marriage because most people tend to say how they feel about you when they are angry. If he or she says, ‘I hate you’, ‘you deceived me’, ‘you lied to me’, etc., take these statements to the bank.
A repetitive or prolonged conflict will affect your health, and you negotiate your peace in the process. If your stress levels are not managed, you can put yourself at the risk of losing out, including your mental health. When your conflicts are beginning to lead to nagging, disrespect, yelling, name-calling, dredging up the past, belittling each other, or refusing to communicate, then you are about to lose the relationship.
Effective communication is perhaps the most important solution, if you cannot do it alone, seek professional help.